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Screaming loud enough to turn back the wind. ([personal profile] whatawaytoburn) wrote2012-07-03 10:47 am

[Conversational topics] Coming out

So, I blame [community profile] kink_bingo for this but I was thinking about coming out. I'm out to my family and most of my friends on just about....everything but I know a lot of people aren't.

So, I thought maybe we could have a coming out party!

Come into this post and say what you are, who you are, what you like and what makes you happy. Tell us you're queer, tell us you're kinky, tell us you write things, tell us that you like to build model airplanes, tell us whatever you want and feel like you don't get to say enough.

Feel free to elaborate too, that's perfectly fine. Babble away on the topics you come up with and just....I don't know. Have fun with this.

And, if you don't want to come out openly, anon comments are on and you can drop us a few notes that way.
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[personal profile] yetregressing 2012-07-03 10:30 pm (UTC)(link)
I am:
- asexual
- aromantic
- agender
- comfortable with myself, but not comfortable with the world I live in
- queer
- a Protector
- an advocate
- an activist
- a writer, occasionally
- not yet a historian
- in love with a bunch of dead racist white dudes and relatively unapologetic about it
- half monster
- poly and a Pack builder
- privileged out my ass, but working on checking that more and more often
- wired to serve
- too human for my own good
- empathetic to a ridiculous degree
- a dreamer
- an optimist fighting against cynicism
- angrier than I look
- a siblingthing
- a father
- a virgo buddy
- a student
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[personal profile] shanaqui 2012-07-03 11:07 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm out about most of this, but it never hurts to get a chance to articulate it again.

I am:
-Welsh.
-Asexual.
-Panromantic.
-Agendered/gender-what's-that. (I am indifferent to my gender, think of myself as neither male nor female, and like neutral pronouns. On the other hand, I'm indifferent to being called a girl or woman too, or even boy/man, as long as the intent isn't to insult.)
-Ardently wishing at all times that I could be an android. (Androgynedroid?)
-A writer.
-A poet, but not a good one.
-A reader.
-Addicted to books in all kinds of ways, some of them not good.
-Mentally ill. Anxious. Depressed. Traumatised.
-A student.
-A polymath. I am interested in (and knowledgeable about) many subjects from Old Norse to epigenetics.
-Smart, but not the genius I think I am.
-Someone who tries very, very hard to be loved.
-A crocheter.
-Very bad at drawing, but I like to do it anyway.
-The sort of person who believes in some private part of her heart that King Arthur really was Welsh and really will come back someday.
-A Unitarian Universalist.
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[personal profile] mfb 2012-07-04 01:17 am (UTC)(link)
Hey, are you comfortable answering questions about UUism?
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[personal profile] shanaqui 2012-07-04 09:45 am (UTC)(link)
Yep, happy to.
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[personal profile] mfb 2012-07-08 01:37 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, sorry it took me so long to get back here! I was thinking about what I wanted to ask.

I suppose I'm a bit curious exactly who it caters to and what it involves. I've been thinking of looking for UU groups in the area I'm moving to, as my thoughts seem to be in line with what I've read about it and ergo it seems like I'd find like-minded people, but I'm not sure if it's a total misfire.
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[personal profile] shanaqui 2012-07-08 04:57 pm (UTC)(link)
That's okay, I'm always prepared to talk about it!

Well, I don't attend any UU groups, I'm a fairly private person in that sense, so I can't tell you what they might be like. From my own reading, and from knowing other UUs, though, the way the group does things will be decided by the members of the group -- not necessarily democratically, but I mean, if the person leading likes Buddhist principles and meditation, that will come across in meetings. I've never met a UU who believed exactly the same as me, but I've equally never met a UU who thought that was a bad thing; since the principles involve tolerance and respect for individuality, that sort of thing is pretty rare. I think it caters to everyone who shares the core principles (which Wikipedia actually has good stuff about), but each individual group might not be to a particular person's taste (as with anything, I suppose).

My personal practice involves some prayer, some meditation, keeping in touch with other people's beliefs, sometimes slipping into a church or other religious centre (if I'm welcome) to see how they do things and if anyone will talk to me there about what they believe, and mostly just trying the best I can to be as good a person as I can (following Christian and Buddhist principles, mostly).
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[personal profile] somethingfeline 2012-07-04 06:29 pm (UTC)(link)
-Otherkin, Shifterkin, gendershifty
-Paganish, animist, believer
-Caring and Mean and Selfish and Sad all in one
-Self Centered
-Demisexual
-Panromantic
-Polyamourus
-Cat, Feline
-Miss ears that move and sharp claws and a tail
-Daemian
-Easily hurt
-Takes things personally
-Mostly Sub
-Into Roleplay Kink
-Likes Animal Formed beings.
-Likes to babble about myself
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[personal profile] thelinesoflearning 2012-07-04 10:18 pm (UTC)(link)
I am:

--genderfluid/genderneutral
--asexual panromantic polyamorous
--theoretically kinky
--theoretically submissive
--in love
--a witch
--hereditary Wiccan
--a writer
--a reader
--a dreamer, a wisher, a liar, a hoper, a prayer, a magic bean buyer
--someone who needs a family/pack/support system to get by
--not alone in my head
--still in the process of discovering what should go on this list
--still in the process of becoming comfortable in my own brain and my own skin
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[personal profile] cxcvi 2012-07-05 12:07 am (UTC)(link)
Most of what I'm about to list here I'm fairly out about, although I think that most people I talk to don't know about at least one of these.

I am:
- Transgender
- Female
- Mostly lesbian (homoflexible doesn't quite feel the right way to put it)
- Somewhat to mostly asexual (it varies)
- Probably demisexual (I still need to thank the person who introduced me to this word; it makes sense in a way that many of my previous ways of understanding my sexuality didn't)
- Autistic
- Somewhat distrustful of labels (and yet I'm using them myself)
- Mentally very ill
- Suffering from depression, and have been for over half my life
- Prone to going non-verbal at times
- An only child
- Being emotionally abused by my parents
-- Still living with them, currently
- Not coping very well with my home life
- Agnostic (feel free to say half a prayer for me whenever you feel that I need prayer; feel free to give yourself a cookie if you get this reference)
- Creative, in many ways
- Unable to express my creativity, most of the time
-- Deeply frustrated by this
- Rarely able to communicate freely (my head is like the M25: there's always a traffic jam somewhere, and sometimes it becomes a car park)
-- Deeply frustrated by this, as well
- An INFP
-- Aware that I have definitely shifted from Thinking to Feeling sometime during the last 10 years
- Fascinated by fire
- Not alone in my head
-- Really fucking scared of admitting this
-- Not really sure who I actually am

and thankful for having somewhere to admit all of this.
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[personal profile] disastrously 2012-07-05 12:21 am (UTC)(link)
I am
Part of a multiple system
Fictive
A father (in-system)
Bisexual
Married to the man I love
Atheist but very openminded.
Very definitely male.
Friendly (Or I try to be)
Have pretty severe PTSD which is not shared by the body.
Am not human.

And think you all should have cookies for making this post. I'm thankful to have a place to admit this.

(Anonymous) 2012-07-08 08:41 am (UTC)(link)

-asexual
-Fae souled
-Have mild social anxiety
-Mori girl
-A writer
-Self Deprecating to ridiculous levels
-Naive
-Sheltered
-Put everyone on pedestals
-A poet (though not a good one)
-Shy
-A performer
-Still have imaginary friends
-Still in the process of discovery
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[personal profile] mfb 2012-07-08 05:07 pm (UTC)(link)
sure, this is therapeutic. I'm out to the people that matter and paranoid about what the ones who don't could do to me. but it needs to be said.

I am:
- Queer, queer, queer. Queery queer queer.
- Spiritual. Spiritual. So many times this has been ripped from me.
- Mostly not having a gender. Sometimes: Different genders! Sometimes not.
- Kin. Machine. Strong. Refusing to place significant relevance on that my body is human and not strong. Learning to.
- So submissive.
- Escapist.
- Hyper-hyper-sensitive.
- A father.
- Wary wary wary wary wary.