whatawaytoburn: Let's celebrate kink! Because why the fuck not?

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@ 2012-02-22 07:27 am UTC

Entry tags:	misc: love (in all its forms and flavors
Crossposts:	http://itsonlyburning.livejournal.com/22624.html

Let's celebrate kink! Because why the fuck not?

SO, things have got my brain thinking lately and I want to talk about kink.

More specifically I want to celebrate kink.

We all have what turns us on. We all have what we love. Some of us experience it through real life, some of us fiction and art and vids and other things.

kink_bingo is a beautiful thing.

I just thought that today, just for a while, we could revel in those kinks. We talk about them, say what we like about them, say what we don't like about them. Celebrate them for what they are.

You can do it anon if you like and you can say as much or as little as you want but the point is here that there should be no shame, no guilt for what you are into. You should dance in it, spin in it, be happy you enjoy what you enjoy, even if its dark, even if some people might look at you and say "Dude, that's fucked up."

It doesn't matter

Because as long as you are experiencing that kink safely then no one has the right to give a fuck.

So come on, give me a babble, give me an essay or just give me a comment saying "Fuck me, do I love being tied up and gagged.

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whatawaytoburn
2012-02-22 12:41 pm UTC (link)

So what am I into? That's a good question.

I'm still learning, honestly. I'm still trying to figure that out. I'm well on my way to a strange little kinky path but I don't know everything yet and I dont expect I ever will.

I like marks, I like being owned, I like reading about people being owned. I like submission. I like writing on bodies, I like when you can blend kink and music, I like candle wax and I like bondage.

I like dynamics on so many levels it's strange and probably a little headspinny.

I like sensation play, I like temperature and impact play.

I think I could like costumes and role play, though on my own terms not 'sexy cop' or something like that. I like getting dressed up and going to abandoned playgrounds and making up stories instead.

I like mixing my art and sex, be that paining or writing on the body (which I said) or pictures or bondage in which you turn the person into a work of art. I like when the arks on my skin are designed, I like seeing the red glow against my skin and knowing that god, I look pretty.

I like being a pet.

I like curling up at someone's feet and I like resting my head on their knee, I ike being good,, I like earning approval, I like being helpful and fetching what someone needs (even if I am ore of a cat). I like being taken care of. I like knowing there will be someone to take care of me at night, no matter what happens and I like being able to love unconditionally.

And, finally, I like being touched.

I know that doesn't seem like that big of a deal. I know that people have stranger kinks, I know that it might not even seem like a kink at all but it's what I'm learning about myself. I like being touched, I like a hand in my hair or on my shoulder or on the small of my back. I like feeling hands on me, I like the comfort of it, I like losing myself in the sensations.

And not that this should matter to anyone but I am asexual. I'm only saying it to encourage more ace people to come out and say what they';re into, in case they ahe any reservations.

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dchan
2012-02-23 07:32 am UTC (link)

I noticed the other day that there is a faint line on my right arm. I thought it was from a Dima scratch, but then I realized that it was from when we played. It made me happy. :3

There are some faint dark lines on my lower back from that too, but I usually can't see those unless I have my shirt off for getting in/out of the shower.

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pipisafoat
2012-02-23 02:49 pm UTC (link)

Hullo, another ace who likes being a pet (and everything you say after that in your comment)!

I like when you can blend kink and music
Oh yes yes yes. Me too. In a previous kinky relationship (one-sidedly sexual and just as functional as all-sided sexuality! just, you know, saying), we kept a playlist (innocuously called "woo") of music that worked well for us with kink or with her with sexual things. It was huge, actually. We'd draw off it for a specific scene and then delete the smaller playlist when that scene was over to make sure we kept things mixed up.

Music is such an important part of all of my life that it really ought not to be a surprise that I firmly believe it belongs with kink, too. The right music will get me into the right headspace so much faster than no music.

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chasethecloudsaway
2012-02-24 01:55 am UTC (link)

We've talked abut this, and you know what I can offer you, what I can give you and do for you and to you, so I don't think I have to say that again.

I just want to say that I always love seeing you talk about things like this. It comes out lovely, evenw hen it's this matter-of-fact, and I lvoe watching you take this journey and discver all of this.

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	no subject smw 2012-02-22 04:01 pm UTC (link)
	How awesome is voyeurism? You get to watch prettiness and passion happen. (Reply to this) (Thread) (Hide 3 comments) (Show 3 comments)

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	+1! (Reply to this) (Thread from start) (Parent)

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	I just wanted to say that this comment made me smile. (Reply to this) (Thread from start) (Parent)

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	yes! Oh gods, yes this. I want to be on the fly on the wall for so many things, it's a i8ttle sad. (Reply to this) (Thread from start) (Parent)

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2012-02-22 08:05 pm UTC (link)

I like wings. I like the feeling of touching wings, I like the soft places where wings rise up and connect with the body, and they are warm and full of down feathers.

I like the thought of being inside someone's body, or, someone being inside my body, in a nonsexual way. I like the thought of opening ribs and touching a heart.

I like words on skin, and being transformed, and I don't know if that is "kink" but I need it, I need to think about the idea of change.

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chasethecloudsaway
2012-02-24 02:00 am UTC (link)

I like words on skin, and being transformed, and I don't know if that is "kink" but I need it, I need to think about the idea of change.

Whether you consider it kink or not, I agree that it is a beautiful thing, a wonderful thing.

And I like seeing you talk about wings. The way you describe them is sweet and it's nice to read.

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whatawaytoburn
2012-02-24 02:18 am UTC (link)

I think you and I have things in common which is wonderful. I think transformation and wings and becoming more than what we are is something that is bound to happen for both of us becuase we believe it so passionately, with so much of our bodies and our minds.

I believe in transformational and I believe in experiencing that through so many different mediums.

I believe in wings and their beauty and I believe in you. I believe that you will find your cloak and I believe you will transform into what you are meant to be and it, you, will be breathtaking.

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	"I like the thought of opening ribs and touching a heart." I keep going back to reread that sentence. I connect with it on a level that is hard to describe, both superficial (because aesthetics) and primal (because... I'm not sure. Because.) Thank you. (Reply to this) (Thread from start) (Parent) (Thread) (Expand) (Hide 1 comment) (Show 1 comment)

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	... I like many, many wildly dysfunctional FICTIONAL relationships and I am kind of done trying to kick sand over that fact. I like prose-based sexiness. I have such a list of things I'm going to experiment with someday, when I connect with someone I can have, and I just keep adding to it. (Reply to this) (Thread) (Hide 1 comment) (Show 1 comment)

	no subject whatawaytoburn 2012-02-24 02:20 am UTC (link)
	This does not surprise me in the slightest. grin. I wish i were closer to you becuase I think you are one of the people I would love to write stories on. I don't even know about what but stories on your skin seem like it would be so wonderful. (Reply to this) (Thread from start) (Parent)

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killing_rose
2012-02-23 05:23 am UTC (link)

I like collars, I like biting, I like pain. I've gone to class looking like someone strangled me and I've gone to class looking mauled. I love blood play and knives. Though I've learned over the years that nails make your back bleed three times as badly.

I'm more a sub than anything else, but at the end of the day, I need power play and dynamic in any relationship.

I don't believe in monogamy and I don't successfully manage it often.

And when you look like the girl next door, have a bachelor's degree from a well-known (in certain circles) college, and are obviously intelligent? People do not take any of the above well.

(The nurse who asked me if I was being abused because my back was basically hamburger got an earful.)

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whatawaytoburn
2012-02-24 02:23 am UTC (link)

You? You make me smile so, so much. You own your kinks and that is empowering and lovely and I love that you love it so much.

Thank you for being you, my dear. Thank you for reveling in what you enjoy and celebrating it and being proud of it.

And if it's anything to you, I bet you look beautiful all marked up.

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chasethecloudsaway
2012-02-23 05:19 pm UTC (link)

I feel awkward claiming what I like, because I don't know yet. I haven't had the chance to experiment, or at least haven't had the ability to take advantage of chances that have passed. I can say what I think I'd like, I can say what I want to try, but I can't say what I like -- just what I want, or at least want to try. Hopefully that's close enough.

So:

I want to be used, but not in the way of being forced. I want someone to tell me exactly what to do, in the full knowledge that I will do it without complaint or debate. I want to serve.

I want to be scratched, I want to be bitten, I want things to go just far enough past what's comfortable but not so far that I can't stand it. I want to play with the limits of what hurts and what feels good and I want to do it with someone who I am comfortable enough with to know they will back off if I need it, because I don't want to be hurt too badly, I just want to be hurt enough.

I want to be written on, painted on, drawn on, to be someone's notebook or chalkboard, to be their canvas, their sketchpad, their sheet music, anything, anything that could be lovely. I'd even want to be dressed up and made up. Anything that is somebody using my body to make something they enjoy making and/or looking at.

I want to be tied up, and then kept occupied, so that the loss of the ability to move doesn't let my mind wander. I want someone to hold me down.

I want to be touched everywhere, to be massaged and pet and treated with care. I want to be told to touch.

I want to be humiliated, just once, just to see how it feels. I want to be absolutely torn down, and then I want to be built back up. I want someone to say the things the voice in my head says. I want to be told to do things I'm uncomfortable with by someone who knows me well enough to judge when discomfort hits too far and things need to be stopped.

Mostly though, I just want to try thing. I want to start learning what I do and don't like, and what I like the idea of more than I like the actual act of.

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	I got a message today saying that i was missed at the BDSM groups that I went to Maybe sometime soon, we can try and make a trek out there and see if we can't get you some kind of exposure somehow. I don't know. Its worth the effort. (Reply to this) (Thread from start) (Parent) (Thread) (Expand) (Hide 1 comment) (Show 1 comment)

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magistrate
2012-02-23 07:14 pm UTC (link)

+1 to

chasethecloudsaway's [I haven't had the chance to experiment, or at least haven't had the ability to take advantage of chances that have passed. I can say what I think I'd like, I can say what I want to try]. I can (and often do) ride along in the rush of my headmates' kink, so there's something, at least.

I like affecting people. Controlling or impelling actions, decisions, moods, opinions. I like crafting things which make other people feel – fear or awe or beauty or pain. That's a lot of my art. I've always taken pride when my stories make people cry, or keeps them up at night.

I like engaging with powerful people, with mutual respect. I like when powerful people submit to me without downplaying their own power, their own autonomy. I like having an edge on equals.

I like being come to with respect or reverence. I like the power and regard of teaching the worthy.

I like strong people when they suffer, and I like entering into that suffering, helping and being with their process of moving through it. I like the motion through it.

I like the intensity of contact between bodies, and contest and strength and struggle between bodies, without sex. I like the noble application of force – to force someone to confront a fear, or a challenge, or to go through an ordeal. I like the whole concept of nobility. I like the whole concept of ordeals. I like the pain which is a source of strength and growth.

I like the manipulation of bodies, from massage through to puppetry.

I like yearning.

I dream of having a sub who's more like an apprentice – someone I help, and guide; someone I discuss things with; an autonomous person who isn't overly subservient, who will discuss when I suggest but will obey without argument when I command. I'm also preoccupied with the notion of worthiness: I dream of being worthy, whatever that means. Sculpting myself into something exquisite and awesome. I want to be a master; I want mastery. Self-mastery. Other-mastery.

I like the skin as a canvas. I wish I could find a tattoo design that spoke to me, long enough and deep enough, to feel it imprinted on my skin. I like the idea of decorating the skin, weaving lines among the muscles, tracing scars in patterns.

I like the heat and solidity of the body. I like the knowledge of blood. I like the skillful application of pressure, of the hand, to cause relief, to cause motion, to delineate, define, explore. I considered studying massage, once – my will, transmuted into another's body. Power to alter.

I love the interplay of power. Gives and takes. More than straight vectors of power, more than strict master and slave.

I like making things my own.

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chasethecloudsaway
2012-02-24 02:05 am UTC (link)

Hurrah for the inexperienced but interested? Or something. Solidarity, anyway.

Also, the way you talk about things is absolutely fascinating to read. And I really like some of the things you talk about. It's interesting, and you state it in a lovely way, matter-of-fact though the language may be.

I like when powerful people submit to me without downplaying their own power, their own autonomy.

That seems like it would be absolutely entrancing to see happen, or be involved with. As do a lot of other things you've mentioned, but particularly that.

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magistrate
2012-02-24 03:17 am UTC (link)

You know, it occurs to me: I'm asexual, and most of the characters wandering in and out of my head are either asexual, or not that interested in sharing their sex life with me. Or I'm not that interested in delving. There's really only one whose sex life I've ever been interested in.

And I think it's because... there's not much he does that's just sex. Well. I know he has sex as a sort of feel-good or good-time casual activity, though it never flares up for me. Most of what I get is the strange, negotiated stuff – most of which is not negotiated in any sense most people would recognize as such.

Because sex for Jacoval/Jack tends, really often, to get tied up with other things – it's caretaking and testing and censure and reassurance, and protection and leaving a mark, studying and rendering vulnerable in preparation for instruction or demolition or rebuilding, it's a territorial thing and a marker used to delineate pack or family, and it ranges from the flirtatious to the clinical to the desperate to the punishing, and generally the aspects you'd expect to go together don't, and the ones you wouldn't do, and it can seem almost primal at one point and almost platonic at another.

And he uses it as a tool. And sometimes the tool is a weapon, and sometimes it's a method of communication, and sometimes it's a brace or a medicine, and it's strange and fascinating to me.

And it feels strange and almost taboo to be so interested in someone's sex life when I have no interest in sex. Which is why I don't talk about it, mostly – because in just about every other way I've had it up to here with sex, with the cultural suffusion of sex, the various suppositions about it. I snarl at sex scenes in movies and books and I don't begrudge my sexual friends their fun or their desire to share their experiences, but I often have no need to be the one they share it with. And yet.

I say a lot that power dynamics are my sex. With Jacoval/Jack, they're not indivisible, but they do twine together an awful lot, and to such an extent.

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2012-02-24 10:38 pm UTC (link)

I think that makes perfect sense to me,, honestly. Being interested in that I mean. It sounds thrilling to be an observer to. But then again, that's what I like about kink and to a minor extent, sex.. I like watching,, I like the details, I like how it varies from person to person I like seeing how someone an take the same act and transform it into a thousand different things.

I like power and I like dynamics and I like them when they're put together and I like them when they're separate Dynamics don't automatically mean power exchange and I think seeing that and seeing everything else that can come into pay when it comes to various ats that involve sex are terribly interesting.

Sex itself? Boring? I think it's dull and a bit tedious and not really all that interesting but it's the details around it, the situation and the people and everything else around it, that I find interesting, so I can totally see how he coud strike you as fascinating to poke at. He seems ike a fascinating creature. to be entranced by.

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2012-02-24 08:13 am UTC (link)

I feel like in fandom in general, but even in kink-positive spaces, there are accepted kinks, kinks that are thought of as cool, especially when it comes to things people do IRL, not just things they read about.

Reading the comments here so far, it's all pretty much the same things. Lots of D/s, lots of sadism and masochism, bondage. Anything that fits under the BDSM umbrella is pretty popular in kinky fannish circles.

My kink...not so much. I can expect to see it casually derided, listed as one of the ultimate squicks, assumed that of COURSE no one would ever want to see it in an exchange fic, one of the most commonly opted-out-of kinks even in places like Kink Bingo... And this is something I don't just like to read about, but something that has been part of my sex life since I started masturbating as a preteen. It's common in non-fannish porn, so I can easily see videos of it if I surf X-Tube or wherever (but often it's clear that what many people like about it is not what I like about it), but I don't feel like it's something I can talk about at all in fannish spaces, even kink-friendly spaces, and fannish spaces are where I feel comfortable, not mainstream porn sites.

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	Yeah... I have some feelings like that sometimes, too. I don't even talk about all of my interests, even in a meme like this, because I feel like I would get hate... not from Charley, but maybe from other people who read this. (Reply to this) (Thread from start) (Parent) (Thread) (Expand) (Hide 2 comments) (Show 2 comments)

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2012-02-24 05:52 pm UTC (link)

I'm currently in the process of doing the 30 Days Of Kink meme over on my personal tumblr (link contains the whole list if other people are interested in doing it too). I have this ingrained urge to not talk about the things that arouse me in too much detail, to not be vulnerable. Especially as a queer man with trans background, admitting that I am into intensely sexual kinks and that I am submissive is hard. It feels like giving up the protective shell I have to constantly maintain because of who I am.
Talking about these things in meme form makes it easier for me, because of the association of memes with being a game, an activity for the sake of entertainment. It feels less serious. Less risky. Maybe someone else will get something out of it, so I thought I'd share.

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2012-02-24 06:39 pm UTC (link)

Like the anon a comment or two above me, I'm currently feeling quite alienated here. I have kinks, I love reading fic and stories with things that may trigger others, like age difference and non-con and incest, but as for IRL experience? I commented the other day on your confession post, talking about how for psychological reasons I can't even make myself masturbate, and so I've never been comfortable having any form of sexual activity with anyone else.

I have no idea if I'm a dominant or a submissive or both; they both appeal in different ways. Or maybe I just prefer reading about such things, about power play and consent play and the like, and will be perfectly happy having missionary sex? No, that doesn't ring true, I don't think that will be the case.

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2012-02-24 06:52 pm UTC (link)

I forgot to mention- I have different responses to varying forms of kink/sex depending on the medium. When watching filmed porn, I need something with at least one lady, and I'm fussy as the male gaze inherent in a lot of mainstream stuff is a turn-off. I've mostly only enjoyed stuff that needed to be paid for.

With the written word, I could (and have!) read nothing but m/m for weeks on end and feel satisfied with that.I also like m/f/m, and f/f, but dudeslash is my main love here, and I have no idea why. I tend to prefer reading about ladies in non-fic (or non-porn) most of the time, but this seems to be one exception hitting a different part of my sub-concious.

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2012-02-24 10:00 pm UTC (link)

I love desperation. Maybe it's being so turned on you can't help but come in your pants, or maybe you're holding your piss until you can't anymore. Maybe it's being desperate for nonsexual touch and calmed by hands on you. Maybe it's desperately in love. Whatever you're desperate for, I want to see it. It doesn't have to be sexual at all; I'm not sexual. I want to see people alive like that, that's all. Pure need, yearning. I want you to bare your soul to me.

I want to read a slash fic where you open your pants for me to come in them, followed by you zipping them back up and then getting off in them yourself, in my come.

I want to read a fic where we're abandoned on another planet and only have each other to rely on; I want it to get serious and deep and close without getting sexual. I want us to be terrified that we won't get home, and I want us desperate for each other, because we're literally all there is.

I want you to cross my wrists and tie them over my head. I want you to stroke my body without pattern until I fall asleep, or I want you to lie down next to me and set a hand on my stomach and not move it, just talk until I fall asleep. I want to kneel at your feet and rest my head on your knee and float, and I want you to stroke my hair absently and otherwise ignore me - read a book or make a business deal or talk to your parents on the phone. I want you to call me your pet as a description of our relationship, and I want it to be clear to everyone that it's not derogatory or humiliating but the most loving place I could inhabit. I want to wear a collar, and I want you to have the only key.

I want to hold you down and just look at you. I want you to accept it without struggle. I want to make you hold yourself still as I put out matches on the inside of your arm. I want to watch you fail to stay still as I put out a match on the inside of your thigh. I want to learn how to flog you exactly the way you want. I want to fuck you and hurt you and tease you and love you, and I want to do it because you ask me to. I want to do it all to your specifications, under your command, in your service.

I want to be chained up in your closet while you fuck someone else in our bed.

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2012-02-24 10:34 pm UTC (link)

[Maybe it's being desperate for nonsexual touch and calmed by hands on you. Maybe it's desperately in love. Whatever you're desperate for, I want to see it. It doesn't have to be sexual at all; I'm not sexual. I want to see people alive like that, that's all. Pure need, yearning. I want you to bare your soul to me.]

Yessss.

One of the most powerful moments that played out, in my own head, in my own fiction, was a moment where one of the characters – terrified of touch and the vulnerability of being touched, but so touch-hungry he could hardly breathe – had to fight and overcome himself just to beg to be held. Just, the struggle, and the fear, and the need.

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	I've had some form of sex with: - a 13 year old girl - a man 30 years older than me - my sister's dog The dog was the best. (Reply to this)

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2012-02-24 11:13 pm UTC (link)

I am fascinated by male-on-male rape. The fictionalized stuff that ignores the physical damage and the long-term injuries and even disfigurements, just uses it to get at the psychological. I am interested in the mixups of assuming that to be a man is to be strong, and that to be a man is to not have this happen, and the much clearer schism between rape and ideas of passion in a heteronormative society. I am interested in the camouflaging and damaging effects or the invisibility. I'm also turned on by the process of counseling and healing after the rape, to a much much greater extent than anything about the rape itself; I like using that environment of injury and fear and shame to explore how a person exists there. I like fantasizing how people come back and re adjust to touch and to sex after that.

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yeeaaah going anon.

(Anonymous)
2012-02-25 01:37 am UTC (link)

Adding to asexual kink experiences:

I'm not really interested in kink in real life - apart from possibly wanting to try bondage sometime, if I can find someone to do it with who'd be fine with it being absolutely nonsexual - but there are things that really, really hit the spot in fiction, and I kind of feel as if they're tied into my asexuality.

What I mean is that the stuff I actually find hot and arousing and will fantasise about does not really overlap with "two or more people actively participating in consensual sex", and that it tends to be a lot about someone passive being forcibly stimulated.

By which I mean: bondage, gags, blind-folds, non-con, tentacles (*___*) or moving vines or animated objects or some other form of penetration by something nonsentient, various forms of... extreme stimulation that cross the border between pleasure and pain (all the way into torture porn and snuff), other things along those lines. Almost all my fantasies involve at least one of bondage and non-con, generally both.

There are other things that don't fit into this pattern (e.g. I have a massive kink for possessiveness and certain kinds of power imbalance), but a lot of my kinks seem to tie very neatly into me being disinterested in partnered sex and primarily interested in pure physical sensation. Which I find interesting! And which I might want to talk about more, especially because I've seen other ace people admit to having some really out-there kinks, except for the part where I really don't want to admit to having a most of these outside heavy filtering. ._.

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magistrate
2012-02-25 10:11 pm UTC (link)

[a lot of my kinks seem to tie very neatly into me being disinterested in partnered sex and primarily interested in pure physical sensation. Which I find interesting! And which I might want to talk about more]

That is interesting!

I kinda wonder if an asexual-focused anon post might be useful/get enough interest/traffic to be worthwhile. Maybe even an anon-enabled post in one of the asexual communities. My first exposure to kink was through an asexual character, actually; I have a feeling that there are a lot of aces who are into physical but nonsexual (or not primarily sexual) forms of interaction/intimacy which could easily blur the boundaries of or cross over into kink.

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(Anonymous)
2013-02-06 10:56 am UTC (link)

Let me start by saying I'm a virgin and I'm okay with that at this point in my life. I'm also stupidly embarrassed by my kink.
I'd say I'm a lesbian, but I'm incredibly attracted to noses regardless of the sex of the person it's attached to. Nothing else about them turns me on all that much, but I really love guy's noses. It's probably a result of being in the closet for so long. I rarely see females with the types of noses I like because they must be more socially acceptable for guys in the media or something stupid like that.

I think I wound up with a nose fetish as a sort of defense mechanism. Anyway I don't know why but I don't really care. A large bridge on a nose is a serious turn on. The Hobbit was like 3 hours of nose porn for me.

I don't know if any of you have see the Hobbit, but Ori's nose is perfect. All the dwarf noses are perfect exempt for Kili's nose which is nearly as pronounced.

I want someone with a large nose. Not just a large nose, but what they think is an embarrassingly large nose. I would spend as long as needed convincing them that their deviated septum was the most obscenely sexy thing I'd ever seen. That every time I saw their face in profile I wanted to place my hands either side of their face rub my nose all the way across their's.

I realize that sounds like platonic eskimo kissing but it's really not for me.

If I'm not fantasizing about the nose of an actual famous person's or a character they portray then the person is always a female with more masculine features, so I'll just use female pronouns from now on.

Eventually, she would believe me. In private, I'd kiss the bridge of her nose. Then I would suck on the same spot. I would move down until just the tip of her nose was in my mouth. I'd avoid the inside of the nostrils because thats a bit of a turn of for me. Then I'd finally kiss her lips.

If I think she'd be comfortable with it, I'll ask her to use her big beautiful sexy nose, instead of her mouth the next time we have oral sex.

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